My ex is dating someone new 3 days after breakup? Sorry this is long! Me and my ex had been going out for 4 months. We had a good relationship & we loved each other a lot or so that's what i thought. There was a time when i decided i needed my own space & once we hung out less, that's when the arguing began. He ended up breaking up w/ me over a text message saying that we need to break up & we are going in 2 different directions. On a friday i found out that hours before he broke up w/ me he was hanging out with this girl & they were going to the movies the same day! He even offered to pay for her and everything. I was really pissed off. I was even more mad when i found out he was seeing somebody else and it was that girl! (he always said he never liked girls that did drugs, & this girl does all that..so it makes me wonder) And to make it worse they are keeping it a secret probably so he doesnt end up looking like an *******, even though people already know.At school i would pass him by & he would try to hide behind his friends or look down whenever he saw me. He didn't have the courage to even look at me. It felt like he never even cared for me at all. He didn't consider my feelings. Guys/girls why would he go into a new relationship so quickly? Have you ever been in this situation? How did you feel? How did you get over it? If you've been one to start dating someone else soon after a breakup why did you do it?

Over the years I've recognized that tons of women DON'T learn to become more successful with relationships, but they actually become worse because of all the past failures, they tend to bring the "garbage" with them. Even knowing this, I did the same thing. It is hard to go into another relationship with trust and an open heart when you have been hurt before. What happens is instead of taking away a positive lesson from these past relationships, women often use what's happened to them as PROOF or EVIDENCE to support their own negative and limiting beliefs about men and relationships.

Stop playing the blame game, stop putting men down and blaming them for everything. Women need to stop the negative remarks and thoughts and try to be positive and productive in a new relationship or situation. If you have this negative type of attitude where you spend more time mocking men, putting them down or making comments like "all men are cheaters", you are doing nothing but reinforcing a myth and pushing any man away who may be interested in you.

You need to stop prejudging whatever chances you get (unless they are truly heinous) and just say yes to more men. Dating is where you get to know someone, that’s what it’s for. What sense does it make to prejudge and reject before knowing someone, why even date? You’re also still probably comparing these men to your ex, whose memory after 6 months has probably been sanitized of all the bad stuff and his image has been elevated to some superhuman level to which you now instantly compare any new men who then fail miserably to match up. You’ve got to move beyond it.

It's absolutely individual, I think :) There is no rule that after a break up you need 2 months or 3 years. If you feel you are ready for a new relarionship - just start them. And don't be afraid - all people are different and if your ex treated you like a crap it doesn't mean that all men/women will do the same:)