The Pros and Cons for Blind Dating
The good things about blind dating are many. For one, you get the ultimate thrill of the element of surprise. You can guess the hair color, eyes, hair, lips, and personality of your date. The excitement of the build up before a blind date is enough reason to go on one. Another plus is that you are dating someone who is not from your work or school, so the conversation can venture out into many other things instead of work and other common interests that you know about each other already. That is another pro about blind dating, no ID checks, so you can start fresh and no guilt will be left if the date doesn’t turn out well.
However, there are some cons about going out on blind dates. A blind date can provide a great opportunity for many awkward moments and sometimes the conversation will not be able to pick itself back up again so you could run out of things to talk about, or even come up with ridiculous questions. If the date is not working out too well, you can sense the incompatibility in a matter of minutes and now you are stuck the entire date with him or her. Stalkers are also predominant in blind dating so you should also be aware and careful of the person you are out on a blind date with.
The idea of enjoying a blind date is possible; you just need to control your expectations. This is what it all comes down to, your expectations. If you don’t build high hopes of your blind date being everything you wanted in a man, you won’t set yourself up for grave disappointment. Blind dating is exciting, you just need to stay calm and not go into the date with high expectations.
Have you ever been on a blind date? What are your views about it? Did you ever set up one of your friends on a blind date and if so, how did it go? Share your thoughts about blind dates below in the comments section!
I'v been on 5 of them. No regrets. I didnt want to see three of them again (I'd rank those as 3's or 4's) and two of them didn't want to see me again (I would have ranked those as 7's). No resulting second dates. Just go in with no expectations and you won't be upset by the outcome. However, be prepared for anything (ladies, this means bring the pepper spray).
My friends set me up once with this guy. it was a surprise blind date!! i had no clue they were setting me up. anyways it went HORRIBLE!! the guy was a weirdo! he kept looking at my food (which btw tasted really bad) kept trying to hold my hand while we were sitting. stood up and did a part of his disco club routine!! -.- Do i need to tell u more on how this date went. i never went on a blind date before! But hey not all people are the same, my advice go to the date, and see how things work out for you. no need to be nervous =)
Yes i have been on a few and don't mind them. One worked out pretty well (we dated for four years) and another one sucked. I'm in a committed relationship now, but if I wasn't I would most likely go one more. You meet intersting people you may not have taken the time to approach with the blind date method. :)
do not do it!! i was on one and she was over 350 pounds. she totally lied to me about what she looked like and what she liked to do in her spare time. she told me that she was very active and loved to excersize. that was not the case. i felt uncomfortable when she immediatly leaned over to kiss me on the mouth after meeting her for 30 seconds. the worst experience of my life.
being on a blind date is fun and nervous at the same time. Sometimes the guy doesn't have the cutest look but that is ok i get to know their personality. Have fun and relax just be yourself and the see if you want to go on another date with the person. That is all up to you.
I've been, and I never will again. My friend set me up with this girl who he thought would hit it off with me! She looked hideous! We ended up going to see a movie called Baby Mama and there was no chemistry at all! All we did was sit in the movie next to each other and look straight ahead! Before the movie, all we did was talk.....ABOUT NOTHING! She was just too shy for me! Afterwards, we shared some laughs and then we got in our cars and drove home! I will never let any of my friends set me up ever again!
I did, and it was a disaster. He claimed to only be about 5 years older than me, but looked old enough to be my father. (In fact, the waitress thought that he was.) And he was cheap too. He gave me an attitude because the restaurant I picked was "expensive". (It was a chain restaurant where two people could eat for under $30 without buying alcoholic drinks.) And then criticized me that I like to "spend money" when he asked what types of things I like to do on dates. (I had said movies, concerts, carnivals, etc.) Never went out with him again.
Not personally no, my mum aged 67 does internet dating though. She went out to meet this bloke, obviously she had seen pics of him on his profile. So, going from what she had seen she expected a bald(ish) guy to turn up. Oh no, he had decided to don a toupee for the occasion. She said she spent the whole date staring at the rug on his head and dithering as to whether to mention it! She said she was quite happy with the baldness, let's face it neither of them are babies, but the wig put her off!
I went on a blind date. It wasn't too bad to begin with. She was really pretty but seemed kinda tense. Well, it only took us ten minutes to realize we had pretty much NOTHING in common. So the last bit was just us kinda together. We had absolutely nothing to talk about because we really were like opposites. Probably will not do it again.
I have been, no one can match make for me and I won't allow them to do that anymore. I despise blind dates. I like using the internet to find dates, however. I found my latest man on a date site, and he drove all the way from San Francisco to see me and he's planning to bring me up where his is for a while.
Sometimes blind dating can be intriguing and even exciting, but farnkly speaking this is not my cup of tea. I prefere dates without any unexpected surprises.
totally agree with you Holly, I think blind dating is for teengers you are fond of different kinds of games, but don't wanna play games, I want to date someone I'm really attracted to.
I can't agree with you ladies. Blind dates always give me a bunch of positive emotions, and even when my lady appears to be a plump women over forty I find it extremely funny LOL
The idea of blind dating is really not so bad, but I agree with the article author - we need to controll our expectations in order not to be disappointed later. Don't wait for a prince to appear, actually all the princes are already taken and they are don't fond of blind dating I think:)
Everyone says hes cute and hes not. Or he might be cute but hes totally weird.. or has bad teeth..
Girl believe me your cute and your friend cute are not the same,I was once went on an blind date and the guy turn out to be handicapped and toothless.And they thought it funny of course.They next at work they were on the floor with laughter.
A blind date can provide a great opportunity for many awkward moments and sometimes the conversation will not be able to pick itself back up again so you could run out of things to talk about, or even come up with ridiculous questions.
Be receptive and open minded. Since you haven’t picked yourself, you could get judgmental. Stay away from that and give them a chance. You’d want the same wouldn’t you?
Since the two of you are strangers, all sensible dating tips tell you to make a run for it if they’re still obsessed with their ex, treats servers and waiters rudely, is impatient, talks ill of other people. Watch for signs of chauvinism, parochialism and disturbing behavior. Your gut feeling should help.
People like blind dates because they’re kept guessing up to the umpteenth hour what kind of hair, color of eyes and hair, lips, and degree of chivalry the blind date has. Instead of going out with someone familiar and close to home, you’d much rather go out and spend the night with the perfect stranger – mysterious, alluring and uncommon.
A few days before the blind date, you catch yourself wondering and daydreaming that “this is it, the point of no return.” You ask yourself if you’re finally going to find your true life partner.
Another benefit is you don’t get to be the topic of conversation on campus or in the office’s water cooler on Monday.
If you date a friend in school or someone at the office and find that you have nothing in common after all, it would be embarrassing to say that there won’t be a second date. A feeling of guilt overcomes you every time you cross paths. On the other hand, going on a blind date means you can reject the person on the basis of the “no attraction there” policy and walk away without the slightest feeling of guilt or remorse.
You’re feeling inadequate because you’re not used to the dating scene and it’s a Herculean effort making small talk. There’s also the chance that your blind date was endowed with a stiff upper lip. What to say?
We hate to sound like a doomsayer but with all that we read in the media today, there are harmless stalkers and there are those full of malicious intent. It’s a terrible feeling to experience someone who suddenly latches on to you and calls you with lewd suggestions at odd hours of the morning. One such experience is sufficient to make you vow, “never a blind date again.”
Blind dating doesn’t mean that you can’t be on another date with someone else. You can go on as many dates as you want unless you get settled with one single person.
Sometimes the experience of blind dates can be so horrifying or embarrassing that you may never want to go on such date again in your entire life.
When paying, offer to go Dutch if you’re a girl and if you’re a guy, offer to pay. This is one of the most important dating tips to follow to make a good impression.
When you’re dating someone you know in school or at work, the conversation tends to gravitate around the things that you have in common: homework and professors if you’re both in school, projects and bosses if you work in the same office. Of course, these are not the only things you talk about – you can talk about your families, hobbies, your favorite books and films and your opinions on the environment and the super bug. On a blind date, however, the slate is clean. It’s like having a brand new chalkboard on which you can write your thoughts. In other words, you’re starting from scratch because you don’t know each other at all. The “getting to know you” process is much more exciting, leading the two of you to a sparkling conversation that can spark “other” things.
Despite the advantages of going on a blind date, there are, unfortunately, disadvantages as well. SUCH AS: When you introduced each other, a little voice inside you said “oh oh, wrong date.” Should you be polite and bear and grin it, or call it off prematurely?
disadvantages: he might not be the person whom you hoped to be seeing based on the good comments of your friends since their opinion are subjective.
The biggest advantage is the surprise factor. Since you haven’t seen the person physically so how she/ he looks like is a surprise for you. If the person with whom you are on date is really a good looking guy/ girl then this is definitely a good surprise for you. I like this part of blind dating very much
The idea of enjoying a blind date is possible; you just need to control your expectations. This is what it all comes down to, your expectations. If you don’t build high hopes of your blind date being everything you wanted in a man, you won’t set yourself up for grave disappointment. Blind dating is exciting, you just need to stay calm and not go into the date with high expectations.
some work friends want to hook me up with this girl they say is really cute and sweet, and stuff, but im not sure, i have never been on a blind date, so if you could please list the pros and cons to blind dating that would be wonderful :) thanks :)
if you want to end it early, you should bring with you schemes to be excused from that date, in that sense.
if he likes you, and you don't like him and he doesn't get the signal, it's hard to put him down as he asks for another date unless you have the guts to say it on his face (not nice huh).
Honestly, it’s like all walks of life. If it’s a bad moment, it is only one night of your life, and you have many, many more nights to do better. I wouldn’t worry about it, I would just do it. Life is for living. If we over plan everything, we end up miserable and disappointed.
A blind date can be a surprising one.. i had once and my guy was even cute and hotter then I expected...=D
Take the person to help out at your favourite charity whether it’s doling out food to the homeless or talking to the old. Such dating tips are highly volatile because it may not work out if the other person crinkles their nose in disgust and walks away. But look on the bright side; you wouldn’t want to be dating an unkind, insensitive person in the first place.
hey don’t look at this as a love connection opportunity. its an opportunity to meet some one new. Go have fun. do not, as in any other date that you don’t already know the person (like an internet friend), have them pick you up at home. meet them somewhere public. and if she/he turns out to be a jerk you have ur own way to get home.
Awwwkward moments. Do something fun and active that’ll distract you both from those moments if you need it, but won’t completely consume all conversation.
You get to know new people and you learn how to deal with a person to whom you have never seen before or you have never met in personal. You can improve your communication skills with the help of such dating concept and you can also improve your dating skills as well.
If the date is not working out too well, you can sense the incompatibility in a matter of minutes and now you are stuck the entire date with him or her. Stalkers are also predominant in blind dating so you should also be aware and careful of the person you are out on a blind date with.
Don’t make goodbyes awkward. Tell them you had a nice time (if you did) and that you’d like to do it again sometime (if you’d like to). If not, be frank and tell them that it wasn’t what you’re looking for though they are nice as a person.
Surprise factor being the biggest advantage is the biggest disadvantage as well. Definitely, you haven’t seen the person physically. In this case, you must have seen his/ her photos or videos. So, if that person turns out to be an ugly one or he/ she has shown fake pictures to you then definitely you are not going to stick to that date for a long time. You will feel like running away as soon as you can. Since, you are on a date and it is against ethics that you run away suddenly so you will have to sit there and give a proper time.
Take it up a notch and throw a masquerade ball or fancy dress party. Invite all your friends and your blind date. This takes away the pressure of dressing conventionally. It also provides a relaxed social setting. You’ll also see if the person matches your wavelength for out of the box. This is a gem from the repertoire of blind dating tips.
The mother of all blind dating tips is –don’t kiss on your first date, even if you’ve found a super connection.
I kissed my baby girl on very first blind date..she was even ready to me with her to her room that night.
She must be a bitch then who was ready to do it on very first date..God don't know how girls lose their respect so easily!!!!!!!!!
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