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Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?

Birds do it, bees do it, and men do it any old time. But women will only do it if the candles are scented just right -- and their partner has done the dishes first. A stereotype, sure, but is it true? Do men really have stronger sex drives than women? Well, yes, they do. Study after study illustrates that men's sex drives are not only stronger than women's, but much more straightforward. The sources of women's libidos, by contrast, are much more difficult to pin down.

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Carol, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Girls want it just as much as guys. But guys just aren't shy about it. I think it all comes down to society. It's been made that if a women says out loud she has intercourse numerous amount of times in a certain amount of time with many partners it is frowned upon while when it comes to men it is encouraged.

Lillian, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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I think it just depends on the person. Some guys will just have sex with anyone and everyone that they can as much as they can- and there are some women like that too. Personally, I have a very high sex drive and its hard to find a boyfriend that can keep up with me on some days. So it just depends on the person.

Virginia, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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i had some lecutres about sexual health at school and the the doctor said that from medical point of view men need sex more often. i don't remember any numbeers but it was pretty much like twice more often than women. i'm a woman and i don't need sex at all, so i guess it depends on a person not just gender

Frank, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs," says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity.

Jason, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Even today, many females don't understand male sexuality. So this article is for women – especially women who can sometimes find it hard to understand what makes men 'tick' sexually.

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Ronald, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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It can be enormously difficult for women to understand just how powerful the average man's sex drive is.

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Laura, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Although males vary a lot on how keen on sex they are, the average man does tend to be much more 'driven' sexually than the average women is. (This applies to gay men as well as to straight guys – but in fact this article just deals with heterosexual males.)

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Peter, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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In 2005, one of Britain's top sex experts told the media that in general, men are on a 'five day cycle' where sex is concerned (ie wanting to make love every five days) – whereas women are more likely to be on a '10 day cycle'. There may be some truth in this.

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Cynthia, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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But it's also true to say that plenty of males – particularly young and virile ones – would really like to have sex every day – and maybe more often than that.

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Maria, 34 Jan 30, 2012
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Indeed, in the era of anti-impotence drugs we have actually seen middle-aged men who have been using these medicines to have sexual encounters with three different women in a single afternoon. This is pretty crazy behaviour, but it does offer an insight into male sexuality…

Walter, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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One of the reasons why the human race has survived for hundreds of thousands of years is the fact that nature has 'programmed' men to be mad keen on penetrating women – and getting sperm into them.

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Steve, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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That may not sound very nice, but it's the truth. The primary sexual objective of a human male is to get his penis inside a woman – and to discharge his sperm into her.

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Raymond, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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And even though many guys succeed in being faithful to their partners, the scientific truth is that males are really 'programmed' to inseminate as many attractive females as possible.

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Brenda, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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So the fact of the matter is that the human race has survived in the main because primitive men went round fertilising a lot of women – thus ensuring the continuance of the species.

Daniel, 34 Jan 30, 2012
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But let's bring it up to date. What about your man today? Well, it should be the case that recent centuries of civilisation have had an effect on him – so that he does not try to impregnate every nice-looking woman he meets.

Antonio, 30 Jan 30, 2012
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"Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with," says J. Michael Bailey, a Northwestern University sex researcher and co-author with Chivers on the study.

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Margaret, 34 Jan 30, 2012
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By contrast, women may be more open to same-sex relationships thanks to their less-directed sex drives, Bailey says. "Women probably have the capacity to become sexually interested in and fall in love with their own sex more than men do," Bailey says. "They won't necessarily do it, but they have the capacity."

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Irene, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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Bailey's contention is backed up by studies showing that homosexuality is a more fluid state among women than men. In another broad review of studies, Baumeister found many more lesbians reported recent sex with men, when compared to gay men's reports of sex with women.

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Heather, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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Women were also more likely than men to call themselves bisexual, and to report their sexual orientation as a matter of choice.

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Laura, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Women's attitudes towards (and willingness to perform) various sexual practices are more likely than men's to change over time.

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Paula, 30 Jan 30, 2012
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Women who regularly attend church are less likely to have permissive attitudes about sex. Men do not show this connection between church attendance and sex attitudes.

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Lawrence, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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Women are more influenced by the attitudes of their peer group in their decisions about sex.

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Denise, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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Women with higher education levels were more likely to have performed a wider variety of sexual practices (such as oral sex); education made less of a difference with men.

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Mark, 35 Jan 30, 2012
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Women were more likely than men to show inconsistency between their expressed values about sexual activities such as premarital sex and their actual behavior.

Jason, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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Why are women's sex drives seemingly weaker and more vulnerable to influence?

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Annie, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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Some have theorized it is related to the greater power of men in society, or differing sexual expectations of men when compared to women. Laumann prefers an explanation more closely tied to the world of sociobiology.

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Kelly, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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Men have every incentive to have sex to pass along their genetic material, Laumann says. By contrast, women may be hard-wired to choose their partners carefully, because they are the ones who can get pregnant and wind up taking care of the baby.

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Tiffany, 35 Jan 30, 2012
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They are likely to be more attuned to relationship quality because they want a partner who will stay around to take care of the child. They're also more likely to choose a man with resources because of his greater ability to support a child.

Louis, 31 Jan 30, 2012
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Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. "I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs

Samuel, 32 Jan 30, 2012
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That does not mean that men do not seek intimacy, love, and connection in a relationship, just as women do. They just view the role of sex differently. "Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex

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Joseph, 34 Jan 30, 2012
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For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side

Bobby, 30 Jan 30, 2012
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another difference between the sexes: how often they have an orgasm during sex. Among men who are part of a couple, 75% report that they always have an orgasm, as opposed to 26% of the women. And not only is there a difference in reality, there's one in perception, too. While the men's female partners reported their rate of orgasm accurately, the women's male partners reported that they believed their female partners had orgasms 45% of the time.

Ronald, 33 Jan 30, 2012
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With men's sex drives seemingly more directly tied to biology when compared to women, it may be no surprise that low desire may be more easily treated through medication in men.

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