Most of those who are in the dating scene are out there to continually explore and search until they are perfectly sure that they are ready to settle down. So it is best to also adopt this disposition as it can make things less stressful for you. This way, you can also enjoy the company of your date with a more relaxed feeling.

I've met a few girls from online dating sites during the past couple of years, and I've very rarely been able to make it past the first date. After about an hour or so, after we've finished drinking our coffee and are getting ready to leave, I tell them that I've really enjoyed meeting them, and that I would like to get together again (if thats true). We then go our separate ways.I don't mean to imply that I stick to this same format everytime...its just a general idea of what happens.When I call them back a few days later, though, they almost always seem very busy or something.

my advice.....don't start talking about sex. Big no no, if you want a lasting relationship........mind u if you want sex and only sex, go for it you might get acouple people slapping you/getting up and leaving. but you might get someone who's into it lol. Maybe you are bored with just coffee? Maybe you need to get out and find something else to do for a first meet? Window shopping? Who knows.

coffee is over rated. i don't drink coffee or "hot" drinks so it wouldn't be something that would interest me. as well it may not suit all personality types. think of something more exciting to do...mini-golf, batting practice, paddle boat rides, corn maze or something intriguing-- you can still talk about all the everyday things while you are doing this and it just gives it an added kick :) step out of the box :)

I agree with you there, OP, as my 'coffee dates' tend to go the same way. I'm guessing that sitting around during the day in a Starbucks isn't all that interesting and may cause two exciting people to look rather boring to eachother. I find that more exciting first meets tend to land a second date, yet I still do the coffee thing. It's inexpensive and simple.

If you want to get a secoond date - just be creative! We are all sick and tired of caffes and restaurants!

Have realistic expectations - that's the most sound thing about dating! We shouldn't be too pessimistic about it but don't expect too much! The less you expect the more you get!

Hmmm...The coffee shop... I compare the coffee shop like going to the library. Don't get me wrong, I like the library, but not for a date. Especially when you don't like coffee. Your forced to sit and entertain each other, buying coffee is far from buying dinner, and all in all its just a plain boring date.

maybe you just pick up wrong girls?

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. I think it's best no matter where you meet to always keep the first encounter a short one (even if there are sparks). You just haven't met anyone who you have chemistry with yet. Don't worry about it...there's plenty of other fish in the sea.

as for me... a find a caffee dating pretty good! It really doesn't matter where to go if you like the partner. good luck!