Four Types of Men to Avoid Dating
The Overly Attached Mothers Boy: Someone like this you can probably expect to be living with their mother or parents, and may be really close to his room, too close for comfort if you plan on spending time with him. There's a possibility that she helped him pick out his décor, of course though she being a woman and you being a woman may share the same tastes. Chances are he has timed things he goes to with his parents and the fridge may be packed with food she made for him, but that too may be a good thing. The reason you should probably stay away: For one, he will always picture his mom as the main woman in his life, you won't be able to live up to her. And chances are he will always take his mothers side (I saw this happen). If you can't live with that, then just break up.
Mr Too Many Muscles for His Own Good: Chances are he will be conceded. Expect pictures of himself and other men in speedos flexing till their veins pop out of their body. And expect little room due to all of his gym equipment. On a plus side though, he will probably have the latest in home entertainment systems. The reason you should probably stay away: Well, for one you probably will barely ever see him. He will always be down at the gym, he'll end up spending more time in the bathroom then you. He'll have cluttered space full of his trophies and things related to him and gym stuff. Expect to have a stubbed toe after being there for some time.
The Womanizer Must Go: This guy will lead you in like all the 20 others he dated that month. He will treat you like a princess and is probably the perfect lover, if he wasn't loving all the other ladies as well. He will dress well and will impress all that sees him, including every other woman he comes in contact with. But expect him to not remember your name, being as you are only just another number to him. The reason you should probably stay away from: His excuses as to why he hasn't showed up is starting to get old, annoying and you know that you know the real truth behind his lies. And you can only imagine that you will have to compete with other ladies to call him.
The Working Machine: This guy will always be going places, but taking you with him would be iffy. He would be smartly dressed and have a great taste in décor and likes to eat at the good places. However.. his work will always come first in his life.
Reason to probably stay away from: You would almost need to make an appointment just to see the guy. He will take you to some fine dining at office parties and stuff of the like but he might end up leaving you there to talk to his buddies. At least he probably won't get drunk though.
The best way you can squirm your way out of a relationship like these, if you don't like them, is to just be honest with them. This will probably get you some more respect and better replies. You need to give them an honest reason why you are leaving and don't leave anything out other then something that may hurt their feelings. Being rude will be unacceptable and unneeded. It's doubtful that they will change for you but maybe telling them the truth will make them start changing their ways for you, who knows.
Wow, I have all 4 traits in me. I'm probably the most undesriable guy on the planet. Guess that explains why I've been single for 4 years. All good tho, I have my mom to take care of me, gym, random dates and my boys to occupy my spare time and a whole lotta work that makes me buckets full of money!
All of these traits are addictions of some sort. I married two of them, and have remained single out of choice at this time in my life. I would recommend anyone getting into a new relationship be very clear of who they are first, and what they are looking for in a person of character!
I am engaged to a wonderful guy, yet I have one concern. He seems overly attached to his mother and I am worried that when I marry him it will be like I am marrying them both. He doesn't even realize it but he is constantly sharing his mother's opinion when we speak about things, and saying that he will ask his mother what she thinks when we are not sure about how to move forward with something. I have never really said anything, since I happen to like his mother a lot and think she is a great woman, but how do I make it clear that I want to make decisions with him, not as the three of us?
Well, to be perfectly honest, it could be a lot worse. Fortunately, you like her and think she is great. If you didn't, this would be a nearly impossible situation. Now, the one thing you don't mention is how she feels about his dependence. Does she like it? Encourage it? Demand it? Or is she also a bit aggravated that he won't cut the umbilical cord and is just waiting for you to take over?
It is important for your fiancé to realize that he is about to marry you and that means that you are the focus. The idea that one should leave the house of his father and mother and cleave to his wife is a Torah concept (Genesis 2:24). Likewise, the woman leaves the home of her parent's and attaches to her husband. The two of you together must begin and create your own life your own way. There is no question that the advice and input of loving parents and in-laws should be valued and used when appropriate, but it cannot be the source and starting point for how decisions are made.
I am married to a mama's boy. We brought his mother over here from israel. She criticized me from the moment we were married. She even made me wear a dress for my son's bar mitzvah that she picked out. Now she lives at a nursing home and demands to see my husband for two or three hours a day. When I wanted to go out for our wedding anniversary my husband wanted to schedule a dinner after we both visited her. I refused to go out. I am stuck washing her clothes every week and if I refuse I get cursed at by my husband. Work out the issues with his mother now or you will be second fiddle.
I am engaged to a man who is 5 yrs younger than me (32). His mother constantly calls every single day. His argument is your mom calls , and wants to lv=ive with us- which is true, however she has cancer. My mom is too very clingy. Even before she was sick. My mom has helped raise my daughter, which i greatly appreciate, However his mom has no man, no friend, no nothing. She talks to him like she's beneath him at his age. Now that he & I are expecting a baby in several months, I've explained that this behavior is so abnormal to what I've been used to. I am willing to walk away if things don't change drastically. Mama's have lived their lives, regardless of their choices- why not allow their adult children to grow is besides me. So if I do have a son, I will not raise him to be dependent on me! To me that's beyond selfish
I am not sure if my fiance is a mama's boy or if his mother is just lonely and controlling!!! He feels that she cannot do anything on her own but my CONSTANT question to him is - what is she going to do after we get married!!! We live in separate cities and whenever we are together - as soon as he leaves she is constantly calling him with dumb stuff! She calls him until he returns home. Oh forgot the most important part - his dad died several years ago and he (out of 3 other brothers) moved back home to help her because she had a stroke. I am stuck! I truly love him...he started out being my best friend...he was my best friend for the past 10 years and after several failed relationships on both of our parts, we decided to enter into a relationship...it is great - EXCEPT FOR MOM!
I married a mama's boy too. And I have only myself to blame. He is sweet and loving and all that but the second his mum is in town I become a non entity to him. More like an afterthought maybe. And she encourages this. She cries to me about how he does not love her enough! Good lord, she is crazy! She is a classic case of passive aggressiveness. You are lucky you like your mother in law to be. You have to speak to him. He needs to know that your opinion counts and the both of you can work things out without any interferences from anyone else. Good luck.
I'm married to a man like that as well. There have been some changes, but only due to the boundaries I imposed and enforced. I was a 'good girl' until I did that, and then, as soon as I set limits, I became the black sheep. When mom's constant intrusions and criticisms of me, my housekeeping, my parenting, etc. became outrageous, I made it clear to him that his wife and kids come first, and that he needed to step up and defend me, and stop allowing her to run rampant over the relationship. He's done so bit by bit, but it's been a struggle that's taken a toll on us. Would I marry him again? Yes. But I'd have set limits earlier than I did and not tried to be a 'good Jewish girl.' This only works in a non-dysfunctional family.
I married a man who has no living parents. One would have thought I would never be posting on this topic. Can you believe that even in death, he has yet to cut the umbilical chord? My husband, although successful walks through life longing for the love of his mother that he can never have, and as a result robs himself of the love I offer. I am reading a book which talks about the IMAGO theory which addresses exactly this but frankly I denounce it. I too lost my father and not only do I not spend my days pining for his embrace, I know he would not approve of such behaviour.
I've been with my mama's boy for over 20 years - married for 15 of those years and it just gets worse. On our wedding day when the DJ announced the next dance was for that special someone in your life, every man grabbed their wife but my husband he took his mother into his arms. I, the bride was standing there in the middle of the dance floor by myself, he didn't even notice that everyone was partner up with their wives until the DJ cracked a joke about it. Only then did he walk over to dance with me, as his mother walked off the dance floor all by herself. On our 1st wedding anniversary, we celebrated by going out for dinner. After dinner we went home and then he went over to his mother's that night and spent the night with her because she was lonely. Well, it's fifteen years later, we have a beautiful home and two beautiful daughters, but guess where my husband is tonight? You got it, he's spending the night at his mommie's. Time for Divorce!
Well, that sounds alot like my situation. I recently had a baby with my mama's boy boyfriend. Ultimately I had to move back home to Canada (as we are from separate countries) so I can begin to take on the full role/responsibilty of being a parent. Due to his financial and emotional codependency to not only his mother, but also his sister who is married herself It is dissapointing when a partner continually chooses his mother, and also in my case his sister as well, over his wife and child. My advice to anyone in a similar situation is to really consider pursuing this type of a relationship with anyone. If you are willing to always be put second and be constantly unhappy then maybe it will work for you. If not then I would just recommend you run for the hills. Men need to realize that their wives and children need to come first, and if they are unwilling to take that responsibility then you need to take it for yourself.
advantage of dating a working machine is that he's successful & has money, but they ARE VERY BUSY PEOPLE.
maybe they are poor (if they are just starting out), they probably have to work ALL the time (so little free time to spend with you), maybe they have to travel out of town a lot
That does not always equal money. Most new businesses don't show a profit for several years. And, running your own business means you put twice as much time and energy into it as you would working for someone. But it also means he's a planner, has goals, and is ambitious.
The saying “men are like toilets, they are either full of crap, or taken” is true. I have dated more than my fair share of men since puberty, and have since come to learn some important truths about being a single woman, trying to find prince charming. The term “womanizer” was made popular by Britney Spears when “Womanizer” debuted as the single on her most recent album “Circus.” But what is a womanizer? The term is undoubtedly negative.
Said simply, a womanizer is a man looking for sex with no strings attached. That may not sound harmful (let’s face it, that is what some of us want), but the negative connotation surrounding a womanizer is that he will lie to you in order to bed you, cheat on you throughout the so-called relationship and steal your heart before you can blink an eye. While it is true that womanizers are typically well-disguised, I believe I can provide insight on how to spot these ladies' men. As I see it, while I may be exposing many of the tricks men have up their sleeves, I am saving my female comrades from almost inevitable heartbreak.
It is unfair that men are getting away with this behavior so frequently. If lying, cheating and stealing are considered unethical, then why does the dating world so often consider the womanizer ethical? A word to wise women: We’re the ones with vaginas; we are in control. Don’t fall prey to the petty tricks of a womanizer. You still can’t change a man who doesn’t want to be changed.
But the one thing all womanizers have in common is vanity. They are vain enough to believe it is acceptable for them to toy with women because they are well-groomed, attractive individuals (usually). Overall, trust your gut. A women’s intuition is usually fairly accurate.
There are different types of womanizers. I should know, I'm one of them. I'm not selfish, uncaring, or incapable of loving. I just have an uncontrollable desire to be with a woman sexually then move on some time afterwards. The women I'm with may get emotionally attached, but I do not because they're not giving me a reason to. If women had more of a womanizer counterpart personality I'd imagine I might go through the same issue. I don't intend to be a womanizer forever, I'm just waiting to meet the girl that gets my attention, takes care of me, and makes me feel special. It's when two parties manage to provide each other with these things that the womanizer becomes the loving man the women we usually sleep with want us to be. In my experience women enjoy the pampering, but seldom provide it. That's why our animal attraction fades and nothing is left for us, so we do move on.
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