Crash Course for Online Dating
If there is a certain kind of girl you have been looking for but haven’t had much luck yet finding her in bars, clubs, work, university, and so on, then perhaps you should give online dating a shot. Online dating is a great way to connect with girls who you specifically want to find and filter out those who you are not so interested in. Of course, you have to put some effort in it as well.
1. First, we all want to trust people, but in the online dating world, trust comes with time. Don’t take everything you see for granted on potential date’s profiles. Anyone can hide behind a computer and type whatever they want on their profile and even exaggerate a bit on their height and weight. There are dating sites that provide background checks for members so keep that in mind when looking for a site to sign up with.
2. After filling out your profile honestly, make sure you include a profile photo as well as a few other photos to complete your profile. Your profile photo will be the first photo any user sees, so make sure it is a moderate, subtle, and attractive photo. Keep your shirt on and keep it interesting. For example, maybe you traveled somewhere interesting and you can include a landmark in the background of your photo. Maybe you like to surf so a photo with you and a surfboard will attract those girls who are either interested in surfing or are surfers themselves. These are just examples. Be sure to include a few other photos including your face and body in your profile.
3. Once you found a girl you are interested in, it is time for you to send the initial message. Don’t ask too many personal questions at first and be sure to act as much as your natural self as possible. This might seem difficult in an email, but do your best to type how you talk, just be sure to use proper grammar and spelling.
4. When you are ready to meet (you will know when the time is right), pick a public place and let someone know where you are going and where you will be to stay safe. Talk about comfortable easy going topics on the first date and make it seem as casual as possible. It might seem awkward meeting someone online at first but just make everything flow and feel as comfortable as possible.
Have you tried out online dating yet? Do you think online dating is much easier than other forms of dating? What do you look for when choosing an online dating site? Share your comments below and let us know what you think!
I think online dating site is a good place to KNOW more people, but not DATE people on there. I am on a dating site now because I think it's a good way to meet people who don't live in your neighborhood. I just think dating online is so unreal, because they always seem perfect when they are online, but not really in person. So you can't really count before you meet up in person.
Yes, I have! After a long term relationship ended (my choice), I felt I needed to get back out there. I went on a spree! I met about 6 guys, for one reason or another it didn't work out (well, one was a little flakey, bumped into him 3 years later and it turns out he had a drug problem...the other was on a break from his long term girlfriend, another had a severe form of bipolar, and the other I just didn't feel right with). In all, they were some nice guys, I started dating a month after my break up though so it was probably too soon but it opened my eyes up to the fact there were guys out there who were nothing like my ex (and thank God!). I ended up meeting someone randomly and took my profile down. It was a good experience for me but always be safe - tell someone where you are going and find your own way there and home again, and meet in a public place.
Yes i have tried it. I didn't pay for it though. I just felt embarrassed about the whole thing. I did get a few emails from guys but either im too picky or the guys were idiots. I would get emails from guys who live over an hour away from me or from guys who clearly stated that i was not the type they were looking for. Most of the guys who emailed me were just after sex.
It does work sometimes, but you have to wade through a whole lot of crap to get there. As a female, you have the advantage. I'm a relatively unattractive male who has higher standards than just message every female in the area regardless of their profile. So, for me online dating works about as well as a hammer works for trimming hedges. But one of my female housemates found a boyfriend after a few months on the site, and they're currently very happy.
it is better for women because they put a picture up and get 100 e mails a day or week. While the guys send 100 e mails and are lucky to get 1 back. So if you are nice looking and have nice pics you will get many responses, then it's up to you to pick a decent guy, there are plenty of people that meet on dating sites.
I met a girl just under 2 years ago through a friend online. We talked - she was in a relationship at the time - and got pretty close as friends. When her relationship ended, the guy pulled me, her, and a few other guys into a chat room to try to guilt her into taking him back. By the end of the night she was crying and it took all my effort to calm her down. About a month later we both agreed we should try to move ourselves into a relationship past friendship. We've been together for 19 months now, and still going strong. Hope it helps.
I was curious about it, so I tried it. What I found: it's pretty similar to off-line dating. You get approached by a lot of creepers, just like you would at any bar and then you meet some who seem really promising, only to find they just want to get in your pants. And once in a while, you actually stumble across someone worthwhile. If you want a change, I'd say go for it. Why not? Just be safe about it! But that's obvious, isn't it?
I tried okcupid about four months ago and met two guys, both highly disappointing. One just put up flattering pictures of himself and made himself look amazing, but after talking to him, I realized that he was an overweight, unemployed college dropout who is 22, doesn;t have his license, and lives in his parents basement, watching movies until 6am, and waking up at 3pm. The second guy I met looked really handsome and sounded great the first month we talked, but then turned out to have severe psychological issues which caused him to have mood swings like crazy. And, his pictures were from years ago, before he started doing heroine. True stories. Be careful.
I met my boyfriend of 18 months online. So far, we still love each other and we can see each other every few months. We live 300 miles away now, but I'm right about to move to be closer to him. He not only stayed with me after my car crash left me handicapped, but he got me off drugs. I think we have a relatively successful relationship. He's also getting me back into school. We're been together since we were 18. He turned 20 last month
Trust me ive been there and done that. lol. Ive met my sweetheart online at a website called Tagged.com and have known him for almost 9 months and i definitely wanna spend my life with him. He's in the Coast Guard and lives in florida but is stationed in Hawaii right now =( ..and im in NYC but he comes here ever so often to visit me and i love every minute we spend together. I never in a million years expected that i would have fell for a guy so sweet and amazing that lives so far away and still treats me like a princess. I havent told him i love him yet but im excited to when he comes to see me again. That goes to show that possibilities are truly endless. I love EVERYTHING about this man , we even have the same birthday! When im with him and i stare into his baby blues, its like the whole world stops..omg sry for like getting carried away but honestly as far as online dating goes..i HIGHLY reccommend it. It doesnt hurt at all, idk if you want just someone to date or someone to get serious with but your at the perfect age to start browsing and im 100% sure you''ll find someone whether for a day or a lifetime. If they look creepy then dont talk to em simple.. theres more jocks out there .Get a webcam and start your journey! lol have fun with it too.. you can try dating websites you know eharmony or something, or you can try a networking website like myspace or tagged idk but try something ..its actually kind of fun too. =) But good luck sweetie and best reguards..=)
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