The widespread theory of young girls’ popularity seems to be totally blown off. According to the statistics more and more men at the age range from 20 to 30 years old prefer dating older women. But what attracts young men to cougars?
Here are the top 3reasons why ladies over their 30-s enjoy greater popularity among younger men:
Cougars are more experienced, therefore they are unlikely to make rash steps or decisions. Be sure they will never drink too much at the party and are less likely to flirt with their boyfriend’s best friend. Thus, being accompanied by an older chick one can relax and just enjoy the relationships.
They are more likely to follow healthy way of life and take better care of their health. Of course, not all the ladies over their 30-s or 40-s become constant visitors of yoga classes, but those who want to look young and flourishing have to try hard. That’s why you will never catch your older girlfriend at night eating a large piece of a chocolate cake or secretly smoking one “last” cigarette.
They do know what they want in bed. Older ladies feel free and relaxed while talking about their sexual desires and this really helps their partners to please them, thus creating an intimate atmosphere. No one will argue that seeing your beloved one happy is one of the most important parts of any healthy relationship, and experienced ladies willingly let their younger partners to make them delighted.
So, young men should be really proud of having older life partners as this may become the indicator of their own high social status (cougars never pay attention to losers).
38 Responses to “Be Proud of Dating a Cougar”
great news, gals! don't be afraid of getting older. If you take care of your body and health you'll be always popular. But anyway I'd prefer staying young forever:)
Hahahah! So would I, my dear! But unfortunately this is an enavitable process that just can be suspended by plastic surgery LOL
I don't understand those guys who are nuts about older chicks, really… no offends, but everything is wonderful in it's time, though I think even in my late 60-s I'll be fond of colledge students:))))
Hi, I don't know if this is normal but I'm 23 and have feelings for women over 45. I don't find people my age or younger to be attracive at all. I'm finding these older women to be difficult to approach because probably they won't want to be seen with a younger man but I fear the first one I talk to and end up having a relationship might just be the one I propose to because I have a great weakness for them.
My weakness is women of age group 45 to 60.Is there something wrong with me? Can I get a woman of such an age group who won't mind going out with me….this is really disturbing my head
go to a seniors home. u`ll have lots of fun there drinkin tea and apple juice and toast with women but dont mess with my granma LOL
So its not NORMAL if by normal you mean "norm". Older woman younger male is arguably the most failed union of all unions. It produces very few marriages or families compared to the other way around…and the few it does create have higher than normal divorce rates.
But.. if thats your thing.. go for it. Is dating asian females "normal" if you are white? not really. its not a norm…but thats what i do. Just because its not a norm doesnt mean I shouldnt do that. Same goes for you with old women.
maybe older women just make you feel safe/ comfortable
look, you are both adults, who cares what others say. your parents are only worried about getting no grandkids if you marry an older woman someday. but hey, life is not about having children, its not about giving your parents grandchildren, its about loving and serving the Lord by loving and serving people.
Personally, I'd look for someone a bit closer to my age, but you never know, she may just be that one. So go ahead if you feel it's right, but be careful. Your family might be a bit surprised, however that isn't a very egregious difference to the way it is nowadays… unlike Hefner…. ew….
An older woman is financially secure and settled – She has a job and therefore not seeking a man to look after her. Whilst she is happy to spend time with a younger man she does not necessarily want any commitment from him. She exudes confidence and is less stressful to be around than many young girls who can be insecure with their looks and career path.
Older women take care of themselves – An older woman values her looks and takes time to maintain them. She spends her own money on expensive clothes and nice hairstyles and no a drain on the Boyfriend.
Age doesn’t always determine maturity. There can be men over forty that give any teenager a run for his money. Depending on their life experiences, some younger men have had to grow up faster and have gained some wisdom and insight. Spending time with him and seeing how he handles stress, finances, friends, work, etc. will give you a better idea of his maturity level. But, if you are looking for a casual relationship, it may not matter.
Younger men still want to explore and find out who they are before settling down. Filled with adventure, they are spontaneous which is quite pleasing to the older woman. The younger man’s adventurous nature is contagious and exploring life together offers excitement especially in the new season of your life.
Before you start dating, figure out your relationship expectations. Determine if casual is more your speed where seeing him less frequently will not be a problem. Limited quality time vs. quantity time may suit the busy cougar schedule better. And, after years of a serious relationship or marriage, dating for fun with no strings attached may be what you need. But if there is an expectation for a serious relationship, then seek a younger man who wants the same.
Don’t be afraid to voice what you want. By being on the same page in the beginning, it will prevent frustration and heartbreak later if he doesn’t want the same thing. Also in early conversations, find out what he wants from the relationship. Is he marriage minded? Does he eventually want children? These discussions don’t have to happen on the first date. But as your relationship progresses, it’s best to tackle them head on as it steers the relationship in the direction that you want.
What is your energy level? Are you the type that likes to dance until dawn or is a quiet night home with a movie more your level? Many younger guys do a lot of social things during the week. If you can’t keep up, find a guy that is more your speed. Also, reveal the social things you like to do. Don’t be afraid to say that you don’t like baseball or hanging out at the bar. Give him some alternatives that show him the relaxed fun side of you. Remember, you don’t have to do things to compete with younger women. Just be yourself and let him enjoy all the things he likes about you.
Maturity is the first step. An older woman does not like and cannot stand, immature attitudes.
here are different aspects of maturity and they have nothing to do with age. I've known a few 20-year-old guys that were more mature than some 40-year-old men. It is OK to be silly and humorous. It is fine to like pop rock, dippin' sticks, and comic books.
A women appreciates hilarious jokes and goofiness. What she won't put up with is childish game playing. Leave the "I told you so" comments for your friends. Don't beg for confirmation of her feelings towards you. Above all else, never, ever use the line, "If you loved me you would…".
Yeah, Showing maturity will surely catch her eye, and immaturity will just as quickly turn her off.
Listen to music of her generation and watch old television shows and movies so you two can relate to the same media. There is nothing worse than being out with some of her friends and a conversation about a television show arises and it ends in you saying that you've never heard of that show. It will embarrass her, bring attention to the age difference, and even worse, it will remind her of how old she is.
A woman doesn't like to be reminded of her age. Being familiar with aspects of her life will surely charm her and put you on mutual ground.
In order for any relationship to work, there has to be mutual chemistry. Chemistry can manifest as a physical chemistry, a bonding chemistry or both. Physical chemistry is when two people are crazy about each other in a physical sense. During the romantic phase of a relationship, the brain releases chemicals known as phenyl ethylamine and dopamine, which causes that heady in-love feeling.
yeah, Two people with the bonding chemistry feel right and comfortable with each other. They respect each other and are committed to commitment. Many times, the bonding comes before the physical. When it does, it makes for a fabulous relationship.
One easy way to hold on to that perfect older woman is to show respect. If she doesn't like fast driving, slow down. If she wants to eat vegetarian, don't take her to a steak joint.
Learn about her morals and values and respect them. This doesn't mean you have to change or agree with everything she says, just do not berate her for her likes and beliefs.
Also, Don't forget to woo her by opening doors and holding the umbrella. Little courtesies make lasting impressions.
It takes a lot of work for any relationship, and the older-younger affair is no exception. Respect and maturity are two of the most important things to remember when trying to win the heart of someone. An older woman is no different than any other woman when it comes to the traits they want in a man. The younger man just has to try a little harder with the older woman.
Know what you're after. There are two types of cougars: alpha and beta. Alpha cougars are sophisticated, intelligent, and on the prowl for sexual empowerment. Betas are usually just looking for someone to make them feel better about themselves. If you really want to impress friends (and learn a thing or two on the way), go after the alpha.
It's about the thrill of the chase. On your part, not ours — honey, we're done chasing. We've got a very fulfilling life already, and whether or not you ask us for our number isn't going to make or break our evening. That's why we're happy to sit back and smile with amusement while you test out all your pick-up lines. Be creative in your efforts — you're going to have to work to earn your cougar cred.
Make up with foreplay what you lack in maturity. Flirty e-mails, texts asking what we're wearing — we eat that shit up. And when it comes to the bedroom, the more you can do without making us put down our glass of wine, the better.
Save the drama for your other mama. Though Botox may have disguised them well, we've earned a healthy number of wrinkles from a lifetime of complicated relationships. We love that you're a no fuss, no strings attached, "wanna see my custom crafted beer pong table?" kinda guy.
Money ain't a thang. No need to flaunt the latest version of PS3 you just bought. We've already dated someone who makes fifteen times the amount you do. Just knowing you'll listen when we tell you to turn it off and come to bed is enough for us.
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Regardless of age, older women want a man with the whole package – someone who likes to have fun, confidence, a sense of humor, sexiness, and respects and accepts you as you are. Yet, figure out your deal breakers before dating a younger man because it helps to weed out the low quality ones. Deal breakers like immaturity, always hanging out with the fellas and not spending enough time with you, not understanding your season of life, conflicts with your kids, living with parents, etc. Spending time with him and asking questions helps you see if he is real or a player.
Some younger men seek out older woman as a mother type. It’s an easy role to fall into since he may appeal to your nurturing side. It starts off innocent such as letting him borrow money or moving in if he doesn’t have a place to stay. Watch out for the early signs and avoid this type because he is not looking for a confident woman who can contribute to the relationship. He wants someone to fill the role that his mother no longer does. You have raised your kids and you don’t want to raise another one.
For some younger guys, going out with a sexy older woman is a big turn-on. His boys think so too and encourage him to do so. He may have the stereotypical idea of the older woman being able to teach him sexually. So, they may be looking for the booty call. These men are obvious by calling late night and asking to come over. Or only wanting to be a friend with benefits and nothing more. It’s best to avoid them unless you don’t mind having a sexual relationship with no strings attached.
Despite him being a younger man, he is still a man. He is likes the hunt and the chase. Let him take the lead in asking you for your phone number and the first date. It doesn’t diminish you as a strong confidence woman. His pursuit will prove that he is really into you. Besides, you’re too busy to do the chasing. Also, keep options open and date other younger men in order to figure out if he is the guy you want. It may be hard especially if you feel a connection. But, it prevents you from getting emotionally attached too soon and it allows you to see him fully.
Know what you want from your Cougar: Are you just wanting a one-night stand with a mature woman or do you think you are interested in a long-term relationship. You need to decide this to make sure you can focus your energies on the right type of cougar.
Get Educated and Stay Semi-Current: If you want to date a high profile and successful cougar you need to be aware that they are generally very intelligent and sophisticated so study up or you won’t be able to keep your cougar interested.